Things Are Going to be Weird Around Here

for a while, so bear with me.

My mother has either been diagnosed with cancer, or a tumor, or something. It depends on who you talk to, what sort of mood they are in, and whether or not they have taken their medication.

I wish I was trying to be funny, but I'm not.

This is typical of my family, and one of the reasons why I have avoided them for years.

What I know is that she has a large tumor in her abdomen; it makes her appear to be seven months pregnant.

She goes in for some type of surgery Tuesday, including a hysterectomy which she claimed to have had several years ago amid much drama, and a colonostomy (?).

My aunt also remembers the alleged hysterectomy drama.

My mother, when pressed, says she thought they gave her a hysterectomy, and indignantly wonders what they thought they were doing in there. I assume "they" are actual doctors, and no alien abduction was involved, although I am starting to wonder.

She -- my mother -- is a devout Jehovah's Witness, and refuses to accept any type of blood or blood product during the surgery.

She is very happy because she copied a phone number from TV about how to fight cancer using "normal" methods.

My brother has taken on the personality of my father, and uses the same emotionally bullying approach I associated with my father, which makes me want to scream.

My mother keeps referring to him as her "precious baby boy," which I find disturbing on so many levels.

There's a lot to the story.

My advice is to run, but feel free to stay tuned.


Corvus said...

I found my way here, earlier this week, via a bread crumb left on some gaming related blog or the other.

I am too well familiar with bizarre family dynamics, including delusional and bullying behavior.

Have strength. Family was there when the buttons were installed and somehow manage to push them, even when we're sure we disconnected them ages ago. This can be crazy making, so make sure to take plenty of short breaks to take deep breaths and reason through things.

Ghost said...

Thank you -- I needed to hear this. And it helps to know I haven't wandered into an isolated phenomenon . . .

Twinmama said...

I am sorry to hear about your mother. Hope everything turns out ok...yes, lots of deep breaths, and maybe a martini wouldn't hurt either...

Dana said...

Anne -
I am so sorry things are so weird. If you need anything, let me know. I will be praying for you and your family.